You’ve heard it or read it a thousand times before… “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” -Dr. W. Dyer
That concept has swirled around me the past few days. (Look at Summer Denise, writing on a Tuesday instead of Sunday… scandalous!). I’m getting more and more comfortable with change, especially the changes that I didn’t necessarily invite into my life. I’m shifting my perspective with an intention to see the value in the change for myself and for those with whom I share love. I’ve always been the type to take words and promises very literally, particularly because I keep my own without question. Not everyone is like that. I’ve always assumed their breaking their word, and subsequently our trust, was purposeful. I’m working to change the way I look at that. I’m working, because this is wholly MY ISSUE, to see that everyone’s definition of loyalty and friendship is different. And that’s cool. Acceptance.
When I go to yoga classes, I rotate where I roll out my mat. I used to be the type to want the same spot (middle row, side of the room) for every class. When I switched studios two summers ago, I decided to change that habit. Now I never get stuck in a rut, as I’m consciously shifting my perspective. I’m able to be more present because the change in physical space keeps my brain more engaged. I don’t shift into autopilot, then careen off to what I have to do after class “monkey mind” as easily. I change the way I look at things every time I step into the studio. Try it.
It’s not easy to move your spot, to say no, or to walk away from certain people, places or things. Whether it be habit, pattern or sense of obligation, we sometimes find ourselves going places we don’t want to go, getting into conversations that feel “wrong,” or surrounded by elements that make us feel stifled, fake, even in pain. Honor yourself. Walk away. Drift away. Run away. Whatever pace suites you. I promise, I’m living proof, that when you surround yourself with the people, places and things that match your level, frequency, and power, your happiness, soul and success will soar.
Flip it on its head today. Change that perspective. Shed the confines of relationships and situations that no longer serve your highest good. Hop into something that feels better, that feels right. Then watch the miracles fly. Much love.