Unbridled. Unchecked. Unrestrained. Uncontrolled.
That’s accurately describes oh so many of the relationships in our lives. Every time you’ve said yes to plans when you wanted to stay home, every time you’ve wanted to pick the restaurant but acquiesced, every time you’ve kept your lips closed when you truly had something to say, you lacked a faithful boundary… to yourself.
I’m good at saying no. I’m decisive. I’m clear on my standards. But, like with most things we discuss, it’s a practice and not a perfect. There are areas, relationships, and situations where I have unchecked boundaries for sure. And thus the Universe presented to me an advertisement on Facebook for a book launch. The book is written by a woman I’ve heard speak before. Her name is Nancy Levin. She worked in events at Hay House for years. She’s written several other books (which I’ve downloaded but haven’t read yet… at least when we hoard digital books, they don’t accumulate dust on a shelf!). I have to admit, I almost scrolled past the ad, as is the common practice, until I saw the co-host of Ms. Levin’s book launch: Gabby Bernstein. My teacher. My mentor. I’m in. One click… ticket purchased.
A book club friend and I went to the launch this past Thursday evening and it did not disappoint. In fact, before I’ve even cracked the spine of Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, I’ve come to realize that I have more work to do in this area than my ego would have me believe. How perfect to experience this talk and now own this book on the precipice of a new decade.
Here are some highlights from my notes from Nancy and Gabby’s talk:
- Nancy said, “Everything that we are seeking externally needs to be resolved internally first.”
- We have to clean up what made us boundary-less. Set yourself a place at the table.
- Some of us are “living an other-referenced life,” as we function the way everyone else wants us to.
- Your boundaries are between you and you.
- Gabby shared a powerful mantra for setting and affirming boundaries: “There is no world where this exists for me anymore.”
- And here’s the mic drop moment from Nancy: “The biggest myth about boundaries is that other people are crossing them.”
I look over at the yellow and blue cover of this book with anticipation—another tool to level up and live this life my way, in the way that fits my desires, my purpose, my heart. This is a book that will not collect dust on my bookshelf.
Much love to my #boundarybadass2020 fam!