Want & Feel
I’m going to push you today.
I was on a call with my coach on Friday and she presented us with an idea that has been swirling around my head ever since:
Are you doing what you want or are you doing what you feel like?
Follow me here… because those two things often aren’t the same, particularly if you’re not getting the results you want in your personal or professional life.
You want toned abs. You feel like lying on the couch and watching season 5 of Schitt’s Creek again. So you lie on the couch. You tear up when David and Patrick get engaged. You look down at your belly and the thoughts flood in: I’ll never have the body I want. I can’t. I won’t. I don’t. I’m so lazy. I’m so this, that, whatever. Maybe the thoughts go into outside blame: this diet/exercise program doesn’t work. I don’t have time. I don’t have help.
And so it goes.
But in reality, dear ones, the external factors are controlled by you. You chose to do what you felt like rather than take a step toward what you say you want. No judgment. Nothing “wrong” with that… just getting aware.
I’ll run another scenario for you: You want more organization in your home. You feel like you have to go to your friend’s whatever party. And you don’t feel like paying someone to help you get organized.
So you chose to spend your time at and your money on what you think you should (or shouldn’t) and, again, you don’t get what you want.
One more scenario. I’m trying to connect with all of you here.
You want a romantic relationship. You don’t feel like meeting new people. You don’t feel like “putting yourself out there.”
Another week/month/year goes by. You don’t get what you think you want because you’re choosing to do what you feel like rather than go toward what you want.
And I get it. A lot of the things that we want are big, scary, out of our comfort zones, require us to stretch and change… so we sit in the pocket of what we feel like rather than aligning what we feel and what we want to achieve.
A lot of these things that we want require or simply come to us with more ease if we ask for or pay for help, but we feel like we shouldn’t be vulnerable or shouldn’t spend our money this way.
I said I was going to push you today, so here it goes. Today, just get aware of what you want, what you feel and what you’re doing. You don’t have to make a change, unless you’re called to do so. Just examine it today.
I suspect there are some really bright light bulbs going off for you.
If you’ve gained any awareness today, email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
I’d love to hear your stories!